Fetishism is the sexual behavior that characterizes those who achieve arousal, through observation or manipulation, of certain objects or parts of the body, called fetish sex.
And here I want to emphasize that feeling a predilection or being interested in a part of the body, for example the hands, is not necessarily a fetishism; We would need a component of sexual attraction, namely, getting turned on when contemplating that part of the body.
If you think about it, many people can be prone to develop a certain degree of excitement towards some object, situation or anatomical part, and this would not be a bad thing or imply a disturbance.
And is that despite the sexual freedom that we live today, many people continue to find certain sexual practices and preferences controversial.
Fetishism enters into this controversy, and no wonder, since it was closely related to disorders and the so-called paraphilias and “sexual deviations", highly stigmatized concepts.
Therefore, the first thing I want to make clear is that fetishism in itself is not a disease; With the exception of cases in which this behavior becomes constant, interfering with the person’s normal sexual functioning, or affecting the person’s work and social activities or when it causes discomfort to others. But the percentage of these cases is very low.
The number of fetishes we can find is considerably varied, as well as people. They can be grouped as follows:
Whipping, gagged or gagged, use of handcuffs, whips, etc.
Like the classic high-heeled shoes (one of the most popular among fetishes), masks, etc. …
Which generally have nothing to do with the genitalia or any other common erogenous zone in the body. The feet, or foot fetish, are one of the most common and the ones that occupy the first place of preference among people who have fetishes.
Lingerie, leather or latex clothing, … These are the most common, followed by the foot fetish. And clothing, such as erotic lingerie, is not only intended to arouse excitement, but can also help us to increase our self-esteem or rekindle passion if we wear it as a couple, among many other benefits.
HOW TO SHARE WITH MY PARTNER?
If you think the time has come and you want to share your fetish with your partner, first of all, see if you are comfortable with your fetish and accept it as something more than all your erotic preferences and things that turn you on. If you’re not comfortable with it and you judge yourself by it, you’ll have to sort it out first.
Here we would find piercings, tattoos and dilations, for example.
In addition to its aesthetics, it can sometimes be attractive to know that the person with a tattoo (or one of these elements) has suffered some suffering while doing so. As a curiosity, nowadays we find more and more followers who are attracted to tattooed bodies. Certainly, the mere exposure to these elements will also make us more sensitive to assigning them other values, such as eroticism.
Fetishism is not a problem at all, just another way of experiencing sexuality, but ignorance makes a part of society classify it as “rare". This influences when sharing these preferences with other people, especially with our partners, since we all want to fit in socially and we are afraid that they will not understand or see us differently. This fear of being misunderstood can cause a lot of discomfort. The good news is that society is changing and normalizing many previously unspeakable practices and preferences.
Good communication as a couple is also important; if we know how to express what we like, how we like and what we don’t like, we have already made a great journey. This point is important for us to live the encounters with our partners in a healthier and enriching way, involving or not fetishes. Because if you can’t communicate what you like to do, you won’t be able to talk about your preferences in general.
There must be respect in the couple, who do not judge us for our tastes is essential; We all have the right to share our preferences if we want and without being judged for it, even if we don’t want to put them into practice together.
Once the fetish has been discussed and exposed to our partner, we can dialogue and agree whether or not we want to introduce it into our encounters.
Fetishism should be considered as an expression of sexual diversity and as such there is nothing wrong with it, it is more a way of enjoying and experiencing our sexuality and having fun.