SEX EDUCATION WITH THE YOUNGEST

Where do I begin? How do i do it? When do you have to talk to them about it?

If we think about sex education and kids , the image of the stork probably comes to mind to explain where babies come from. But there is much more, when we have doubts about why they show their genitals, they look at each other, they explore each other, if they like girls, boys, if they pretend that the dolls are a couple and a thousand more doubts, we see that the center of our doubts is not reproduction, far from it. This comes from the reproductive idea that has come to us from sexuality. 

Let's celebrate the stork in sex education

For a long time this resource was used to “get out of the way” , but many times it only generates more doubts.Which are answered with other stories that only complicate what at first wanted to be simple. So the storks' nests are full of babies? Am I a bird? If the stork brings us, what is inside the belly in a pregnancy? Why are there babies that come out of childbirth and a stork brought me? Is it so that when you have the baby the stork takes it away? It is a difficult task to explain what has not been explained to me, but just as we talk to you about how to brush your teeth, cross the street or interpret traffic lights, it is important to educate yourself in knowing yourself, taking care of yourself and protecting yourself. This is educating in sexuality, in order to enrich it throughout its development in a positive way.

AND WHEN DO WE START TALKING TO THEM ABOUT SEXUALITY ?

From the moment it is born we are already educating in sexuality. The silences, comments, changing the channel, hygiene, how I show affection… all that is already sexual education that he is receiving because I am his reference model. Sexuality is something innate that accompanies us throughout our lives, there is no specific moment where it suddenly appears, we have it from the moment we are born. That is why we are going to see some tools that you can put into practice to do sexual education to children.

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Listening predisposition

It is important to prepare a suitable context where you feel comfortable to ask us and practice active listening How? Let them feel that their questions will be heard, respected and answered. That they will not be judged and above all respecting privacy. You can ask him what his concern is, where has he heard that, what he thinks about it. And always, adapting the language to his age. It is important to keep in mind that they speak, ask and act with a beginner's mind, from their curiosity. That is why we must put aside my adult vision of sexuality.

Naturalness

Let them know explicitly that you can talk about sexuality , not leave it up in the air. If you are ashamed, nothing happens, expressing this feeling of shame is also to show naturalness, but this does not mean avoiding questions, but rather reinforcing the taboo. If, for example, you ask us what is fucking? We will have to remove intercourse from the head, go down to its level and ask questions. They ask us what they hear or see, so it is important to go to their level and find out what they really want to know.

I don't know everything

Lying is not an option . If there is something that we do not know, that we do not have it very clear, that we do not know if it is true at all, nothing happens “I love that you asked me, I think your question is important, I am going to take some time to consult and find out and when I have the information I will tell you ”. We show naturalness, interest and also open a space to discuss the subject again at another time.

Referents at home

We are your reference, that is why it is important that we do not reproduce unequal , sexist or homophobic values . A very important aspect in this sense is language. Expressions like “Don't touch my balls, this is a pain in the ass, I'm up to the hilt" makes them associate genitalia as something derogatory. And it is that they have many words associated with their genitals as insults for this reason putting the name that corresponds to them and avoiding this type of expressions will make them reconcile with this part of their body. Likewise, it is important that we accept and respect their wishes, their identity, orientation, feelings, and that we support them with those concerns that they raise to us.

He doesn't ask me anything. How do I work on sex education?

“He does not ask me anything, when I tell him something he dies of shame" Here he has already integrated that sexuality is synonymous with something shameful , or that you cannot talk about it. For this reason, we will have to work naturally, the willingness to listen and take advantage of any occasion to return to the subject, from something more “neutral" to something more intimate. And it is that although he does not ask, he is curious. Take advantage of moments, series, topics, risk relationships, sexting, jealousy, take the opportunity to see them in common and debate about it. We must in this process take seriously what they ask us, what they tell us. That is why it is so important to start talking to them about aspects of sexuality from a young age, to have this work done and then there is minimal resistance.HOW TO TALK ABOUT SEXUALITY WITH THE YOUNGEST?

We have to take several things into account when talking about sexuality to the little ones. Here are the best tips to get you started:

1. Listening predisposition
It is important to prepare a suitable context where you feel comfortable to ask us and  practice active listening

2. Naturalness
Let them know explicitly that you can talk about sexuality , not leave it up in the air .

3. I don't know everything
Lying is not an option . If there is something that we do not know, that we do not have it very clear, that we do not know if it is true at all, nothing happens  “I love that you asked me, I think your question is important, I am going to take some time to consult and find out and when I have the information I'll tell you “

4. Referents at home
We are your reference, so it  is important that we do not reproduce unequal ,  sexist or homophobic values .

5. He doesn't ask me anything. How do I work on sex education?
Here you have  already integrated that sexuality is synonymous with something shameful , or that you cannot talk about it. Therefore,  we will have to work naturally, the willingness to listen 
WHEN DOES SEXUALITY WAKE UP?

 Sexuality is something innate  that accompanies us throughout our lives, there is no specific moment where it suddenly appears, we have it from the moment we are born.

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